Drinks. A lot. Told him not to contact me when he is drunk but sigh
Doesn't accept that I need distance and my fervently needed time alone is.perceived as a problem
A Tier
Openly shows me pictures of my GIRLFRIENDS and compliments them which I as a woman can do freely of course but??? CMON. Haven't complimented me in a while yet you do ts
This happened one time but he stopped a pretty serious convo midway to answer an IG video call from a girl he knows likes him so she can spill tea to him (not cool)
B Tier
Somehow unintentionally constantly negligent
he is destructive. Like he breaks things.
C Tier
Demands physical proximity.yeah.
Keeps bringing up his ex in the worst moments oh my god
Drinks. A lot. Told him not to contact me when he is drunk but sigh
Doesn't accept that I need distance and my fervently needed time alone is.perceived as a problem
A
Openly shows me pictures of my GIRLFRIENDS and compliments them which I as a woman can do freely of course but??? CMON. Haven't complimented me in a while yet you do ts
This happened one time but he stopped a pretty serious convo midway to answer an IG video call from a girl he knows likes him so she can spill tea to him (not cool)
B
Somehow unintentionally constantly negligent
he is destructive. Like he breaks things.
C
Demands physical proximity.yeah.
Keeps bringing up his ex in the worst moments oh my god
D
Can't stay single. Yeah. That's his problem
Emotionally demanding
Created Jan 16, 2026
A candid ranking of relationship red flags that led to one person's decision to end things with their boyfriend. The list catalogs a range of concerning behaviors, from the awkward (openly complimenting her friends while neglecting to compliment her) to the more serious (heavy drinking, bringing up his ex at inappropriate times, and answering video calls from someone who clearly has feelings for him mid-conversation). Other dealbreakers include his inability to respect her need for alone time, emotional unavailability, being "unintentionally constantly negligent," and literally breaking things around the house. It's a brutally honest breakdown of why sometimes love isn't enough when fundamental incompatibilities and disrespectful behaviors pile up.